Why do parents believe and practice parenting? The answer is quite simple. They have a picture in mind of what they would like their child to be and take steps to train and mould the child to their liking and dream. While this might be okay to a certain extent it may not be correct always. What we should understand is that every human being is different and the same way every child is different. So you cannot straight jacket all your children in the same way as you want them to be.
You should give them the liberty and allow the children to be what they want; however, this should be done without compromising on certain value systems and principals which you have believed very strongly and which has been the torch bearer in your journey of life. These values and ethics must however be built on love for people in general, respecting elders, being positive in your attitude and aiming high in life.
Many parents take it very personally when they are told that they perhaps lack the skills to manage their children better. However, if the parent is good and self-introspecting type, they would stop and ponder for a moment and find out where exactly they are going wrong. Once they realize that the mistake is with them, then it would make their job that much easier.
Let us face the fact that today’s child has more avenues to be more informed and be factually more correct that we had when we were their age. So, there is no point playing the same old song and trying to win over the child. Learn to change with times and at the same time do not let go the core values and principles which are close to your heart and which has stood the test of time.

Good parenting is extremely important for your children to grow up as normal citizens. People think good parenting is a tough job while it is actually not. Parenting a child properly is more about common sense than anything else. First before you really start thinking of parenting your children think clearly about what are the value systems and ethics that you would like to pass on to the children and then decide accordingly. Secondly, it is very important to understand the psyche of your children before we prepare a list of do’s and don’ts and should not forget the fact that we also passed through this process when we were children.
Children like pampering and motivating. They hate being ridiculed especially in front of other children. This fact should be borne in mind while we think about parenting a child. Putting down your own child in front of others is the worst thing that you can do to deflate the child’s ego and confidence. Some parents think that that is a good method for instilling a sense of fear and respect in the child.
This is totally wrong and it is a sure to de-motivate the child and eventually it goes into a shell out of which it can never again come out. If the child happens to be a slightly grown up one, then you would not only be damaging his of her self-confidence for good, but would also put its life in risk because children tend to take these snubbing very seriously and may do something drastic which you would regret for the rest of your life.
The above however does not mean that you should put up with all the tantrums and the bad things which the child may indulge in. You should have the courage to call the child over, sit with him and discuss the matters in and open and transparent manner.